TRANSFORM YOUR INNER CIRCLE
Transforming your inner-circle
As you’re following your dream – you’ll encounter people that will not see what you see nor share the same enthusiasm as you. Who am I talking about?
– Your friends?
– Your teachers?
– Your co-workers?
Your family are the ones I’m talking about. They will be the first to try and talk you out from your dream until you finally achieve it. Once you achieve your dream then they’ll believe you and support you because they can see it with their own eyes. Before then, they’ll carry on and on and on convincing you on how it’s too risky and you should play it safe.
It’s not out of hate they’re doing this to you but out of fear, love and broken spirit. They don’t want to see you discouraged… which doesn’t help. They’re passing on their beliefs of the world on to you that there’s no winning for typical people such as ourselves.
However, the truth is we are far from normal and that’s what extremely worries them. We are so different it’s screwing with their patterns and they seem to not understand that. Now that you’re screwing with their patterns of what you used to be, what they’ll naturally do is react rather than respond to the situation as they are not aware of any other way to acquire certainty and significance in the situation given.
Your family have known you all their life. They know you comprehensively more than anyone because they’ve raised you on their beliefs. For example:
You may have been a disorganised individual until you were inspired by an event in your life that had made you want to be more organised. Your family will automatically suspect something in your behaviour and attitude as this is not part of you that they’ve come to acknowledge, they’ll remind you of all the time you used to be disorganised (unintentionally) because that’s what they’re focused on and this may make you feel as if you’re not worthy enough for this change in your life.
“What is behind your eyes holds more power than what is in front.” – Gary Zukav
Your past doesn’t necessarily dictate your actual present or future. However, there are several people who allow this to be the case because of their focus. They never end fulfilling their dreams or transforming into the person they can.
What you focus on, you will experience and that will be the outcome of your life.
Look around you. Whatever you find is the result of your existing value and beliefs which determine if something is “good” or “bad.”
You may look at the world and find poverty, greed, suffering, war and lack of opportunity or abundance, love, friendship and peace.
The world isn’t one extreme to another and there can be a flow. However, you think it is because of your circle of influence.
“You are the average of the five people you spend your time with.” – Jim Rohn
One belief after another is passed on to you which is impacting your model of the world and outcome.
When you start outgrowing your loved ones, they become uncertain of who you’re transforming into. They’ll do all that’s within their ability to resist your transformation and put you back in their box of what they think you should be.
They’ll question where your loyalty and love lies because they’ve come to accept they are no longer a priority in your life.
The less you hang around with them to pursue your dream – the more they’ll feel insignificant which shouldn’t be the case.
Where is this emotion coming from?
Am I loved? Am I enough? Will I ever see him/her again? Will him/her ever visit me? Will I still know him/her?
Fear. They’re creating these stories of what love, connection and the relationship between you and them should be. When they realize their stories and your story is not in alignment, it becomes extremely overwhelming for them to cope. Unconsciously it becomes their mission to put you down so they can tell you, ‘I told you so.’
“You must learn a new way to think before you can master a new way to be.”
What do I mean?
You’ve endured plenty of conditioning without realizing. To live life on your term and transform your relationship with your loved ones – you must break the patterns wired into your mind. Transform your mindset and attitude.
The aim is not to resist them but to remove yourself entirely from that environment momentarily until you build positive habits and clarity. Move from that environment to an environment that serves you, aligned with your dreams.
You may still feel hesitant to remove yourself from that environment but the truth is clear. Surround yourself in an intoxicating environment and you will lose by default. Never fulfilling your dream. You’ll be tempted to lower your standard to please them.
To avoid this then you must find people that ARE aligned with your dreams, that will make you raise your standard. Be around them more often and less around people that stop you from following your dream. It’s not selfish. It’s because you love your family that you must do this.
You must learn to be selfish before you can be selfless.
How can you serve them if you can’t serve yourself?
Whilst fulfilling your destiny, practise self-love and self-forgiveness then you’ll find it easier to start saying YES to the things that serve you and NO to the things that doesn’t.
Develop a sense of urgency and focus then hustle hard.
“What lies behind us and what lies before us are small matters compared to what lies within us. And when we bring what is within us out into the world, miracles happen.”
Ralph Waldo Emerson