One piece of advice – The Worry
A bestfriend of mine asked me: What is the one piece of advice you would give to women around the world?
What a mammoth question, worthy of so many equally meaningful answers I would love to offer – especially as my “one piece of advice” continually changes as I evolve, grow & learn.
But there are few non-negotiable truths I have always lived by, which are so deeply embedded into the fabric of my being I don’t even realize so until someone points out my confidence or zeal in life. So in this present moment, if I could take one giant slab out of my heart & give it to you trusting it would make a profound impact, it is this:
BE COMPLETELY CARELESS + WORRY-FREE ABOUT ABSOLUTELY EVERYTHING AND ANYTHING THAT IS:
a) NOT A MATTER OF LIFE OR DEATH
b) BEYOND YOUR CONTROL
c) DOES NOT SERVE TO MAKE THE WORLD AN INFINITELY BETTER PLACE
I’m not even joking when I tell you that my mum still growls me for saying “I don’t care” too much haha. Because it really is so true. I literally do not care about almost anything in life. I am totally not phased, unsurprised, bothered or shaken by 99.9% of every single thing (unless it has to do with justice & love). This truth alone has empowered me to keep my head above water and remain unapologetic, confident and liberated in the face of trial.
Oh, how I so desire this for every woman on the planet!!!
Each day I want to lovingly yell into our anxiety-ridden generation screaming “STOP F*CKING WORRYING ABOUT ALL THIS MEANINGLESS SH*T YOU SELL YOUR SOUL TO. IT IS NOT WORTH YOUR TIME/ENERGY AND ULTIMATELY YOUR BEST LIFE YOU ARE ACTIVELY SACRIFICING”
We get so plagued, so caught up, so engulfed, so selfish, and so painfully attached to things in our lives and yet “we brought nothing with us when we came into the world, and we can’t take anything with us when we leave it” 1 Timothy 6:7
Have we forgotten the single most profound truth common to all people around the world, regardless of race, religion, culture, age, size, sexuality, gender, occupation, etc that we could die at any moment. Our lives are incredibly precious, temporary & fragile – yet how often do we actually treat our days accordingly?
Instead we subscribe our cares & worries to pointless trash, mostly others opinions/expectations or our own fears which we project onto others. Asking ourselves superficial questions such as “Why didn’t he/she like my photo? I wonder what he meant by that msg? Why didn’t he txt back? How can I get a body like hers? Is she prettier than me? Will my wedding be better than hers? Is this photo instaworthy? Is my outfit socially acceptable? Is this clothing brand on trend? I wonder who her caption was aimed at? How can I overtake this business? Will anyone come to my event? Is my idea good enough? Did I come off as too much? Am I measuring up to what they want to see? Maybe if I hustle harder they’ll notice? etc etc etc”
Basically, we spend our days in a frantic state of constant of worry. But can worry add a single hour to any of our lives? (Matthew 6:27)
Worry, stress, criticism & overwhelm pretend to be useful, necessary emotions that have a purpose, which in reality have none. Why? Because they never ever serve to further the cause of justice or love in the world, making them utterly wasteful feelings.
Did you know the #1 greatest regret of the dying is: “I wish I had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me;” which I interpret the same as “I wish I didn’t spend my days caring, worrying & stressing over fleeting matters so far beneath my God-given potential to live an extraordinary existence”
So forget the stress, the depression, the drama, the crazy, the busy, the expensive, the chaos, the ugly, the scrutiny, the expectation, the petty, the fuss, the pain, the debt, the unhappy, the overthinking, the mess, the whole damn lot and instead live relaxed, free and careless in the care of God.