7 WAYS TO BOOST YOUR CONFIDENCE – Monika Kloeckner
Confidence is defined as feeling good about yourself and believing in your abilities. Your confidence depends on how you see yourself and think about yourself. Do you always have positive thoughts about yourself?
If the answer is No, than this piece of advice is right for you.
The good news is that you can work on your confidence and with practice it will increase. As a first step become clear what situations you are not confident in. You may be confident at work because you know your job inside out, but with meeting people you lack confidence. This is because you are not sure how to talk to them and are anxious about their reaction.
It is very rare that someone is confident in all areas of life. You always find that the most outgoing people can have a social phobia. They avoid big crowds, such as parties with hundreds of people. But at work they know their job very well and seem ambitious.
Here are 7 ways to boost your confidence:
1) Visualize yourself confident
You may think that this is a difficult task. Try this exercise daily or several times a week, preferably in the morning before getting up:
Sit down in a comfortable chair, close your eyes and relax your entire body. Then begin to focus on your breathing. Next, begin to create a picture in your mind of how a more confident you would look like and act. Where are you? Who is with you? How do you feel? Imagine the entire situation in vivid colours. Notice the details and enjoy the feeling of confidence within you.
If you do this exercise regularly it will manifest in your mind and you will start to feel more confident.
2) Challenge your negative thoughts
“I am not good enough.”, “I never amount to anything.”, “I will never achieve my goals.”
If you have those negative thoughts and/or others ask yourself where they originate from. Start by looking back to your childhood. Sometimes our parents mentioned those phrases. This often happens unintentionally. But because you were a child you believed what your parents told you. Now is the time to make the necessary changes and begin the reprogramming of those negative thoughts.
Do the following exercise:
Write a mantra for each negative thought you have. For example: I am not good enough replaced with I am good enough.
I can achieve anything I want to.
I am successful.
Second exercise: Write down all success you already had in your life to date. This can be anything from passing your O-levels, athletic medals, passing your driving licence.
How many successes do you now have on your list? Congratulations! You are good enough and you can achieve anything you like.
3) Write a Gratitude journal
The more grateful you are the easier your life will become. The more opportunities will emerge and the happier you will be. It will boost your confidence in a myriad of ways.
Every evening write in a journal what you are grateful for. Even the smallest friendly gestures, such as a smile from a colleague or stranger is a reason to be grateful for. In today’s hectic life people forget kindness.
4) Be the best version of You
Dress to impress comes to mind. Did you have a look at your wardrobe lately? Do you have clothes that you have not worn for six months or longer. Sort them out and take them to a charity shop. Replenish your wardrobe with a few new coordinates and new matching shoes.
As well as choosing the right styles it is also important to choose the right colours that lift your mood and make you feel fantastic! If you are not sure what colours suit you best engage an expert in this field. She will be able to help you.
Wear a perfume that matches with your personality and mood. It makes you feel good about yourself and makes you feel more attractive.
Look after your hair. Go to the hairdresser’s regularly. This can mean that you go once a month or every third month.
5) Dance yourself happy
Join a local dancing class or club. Dance away your stress, have fun and forget the often laborious task at home and work. Dancing will boost your confidence. You will learn new steps and memorize them, which will give you tons of confidence. Dancing for is good for relaxation, fund and boosting your confidence.
Other possibilities to boost your confidence is to learn an instrument or go swimming.
6) Surround yourself with positive people
Not an easy task. I know. Most people around you may be negative thinkers, everything in their lives is doom and gloom. But there are positive thinkers. I meet them often unexpectedly while waiting for the bus or train. I meet them while being in the queue at a supermarket. I recently made friends with a cashier at Sainsbury’s. She is the most positive person I have ever met. We just need to keep our eyes open and while we are doing this we often meet those rare people in all kinds of places.
7) Discover your best likes
Every person has got something another person loves about you. Think about someone who has been with you for a while – a partner. What did this person say he or she likes about you. There is always a person that makes a positive statement about you. Think about all those compliments and write them down. Then think about what you like about yourself too.
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